Yes it’s selfish for me to want my baby to be born at home surrounded by love and people that I trust instead of doctors. It’s so selfish of me to want them to be born in a comfortable quiet space with dim lighting and soft music. It’s also selfish of me to hope that my baby could have been born in water or however they would choose to be born, for me to be able to get into the position that is the easiest for them to come out so that they could have the most easy transition to this world instead of being born in a brightly light, high energy hospital room, laying on a bed unable to move. It’s selfish of me to want my baby to be born at him in love and trust instead of in fear of unnecessary medical intervention at a hospital where they are in constant danger of having their pure tiny little body pumped full of chemical medicines as the discretion of a doctor. It’s totally selfish of me to do everything in my power to ensure that my baby is born in the natural way that is the right of every human being on this earth, through their mothers yoni, rather than being cut out of her womb. Its selfish of me for wanting to be in control of our birth, so that neither of us would be rushed or forced. And it’s also really selfish of me to give birth to my baby in a place where they could be in constant contact with mama, treated gently from birth, not put in a separate room ever, in fact, never having to leave the safety of the room that they were born in for an entire month! You’re right.